Baby Steps Blog

Eating for Two?

Published May 23, 2012

Eating for Two? I loved being pregnant. I felt like I had a wonderful and mysterious secret in those first months – I was a sacred vessel. I stopped smoking (32 years and counting!), drinking, and was very careful about what I ate. I read everything I could find about pregnancy. And along with being careful about what I ate – I set myself to gain some weight! Do you see pregnancy as an eating assignment? In the latest analysis by the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) 53% of moms who got pregnant were over ideal weight when they got pregnant. (By the way, if you are worrying about your BMI and you are eight months pregnant – don’t. ...

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In response to TIME

Published May 15, 2012

In response to TIME I don’t know about you, but my Facebook account has been going crazy over the Time Magazine front cover of a Little Nursing Person with his mom. Breastfeeding and Attachment Parenting aficionados were not very happy with the article itself, which apparently gave plenty of kudos to Dr. Sears for his Parenting Book, but did not go beyond his ideas. The roots of the Attachment Parenting movement go back to some of the brightest researchers of the twentieth century. After World War II, there were many children without parents in Europe. The United Nations asked John Bowlby to study what was the best thing to do for these...

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Baby Steps – Why Is My Back Killing Me?

Published May 8, 2012

Baby Steps - Why Is My Back Killing Me? Ask ten different women with new babies if their back hurts, and four of them will say yes. But those four may be hurting in four different places! During pregnancy our bodies change to accommodate our growing babies. For years, common wisdom said this was due to increased lordosis – our spines curved more. Recent studies show, thought, that it’s actually the changes in our center of gravity that give us back problems. This makes sense when you realize that a ten pound weight, carried properly, puts ten pounds of weight pressure on us. But a ten pound weight carried incorrectly may place 100 pounds...

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Visiting After Birth 101

Published May 1, 2012

Visiting After Birth 101 My son was born during a very big snowstorm, at the very little hospital in Bellows Falls. Clean-up had barely started the next day when a woman I barely knew popped her head in before breakfast and said, “Hey! I was getting my blood drawn and I heard you had your baby! I thought I would come say hello!” Privacy rules have changed, so that might not happen today. But over the past fifty years or so, there have been lots of changes in hospitals. Here’s a walk back in time, and some thoughts about the up side and down side of open visiting hours. I’d be glad to hear your thoughts and stories! OB Visiting-...

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The Day I Became a Mother

Published April 16, 2012

The day I became a mother, my life changed forever. Now, that is the most ridiculous sentence to start with. But it is also most profound. Because, if we are lucky, the births of our babies can give us great gifts, as we learn truths about ourselves. I started teaching Lamaze classes in 1986. I had what I felt was a simple goal for my classes. Instead of telling horror stories about birth, women who took my classes would tell stories of triumph. They would be the heroines of their own birthing stories. Well, here it is 20 years later. And guess what – word on the street is that birth is – well – let me tell you about MY birth…!...

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Mohrbacher’s Magic Number

Published April 10, 2012

Mohrbacher’s Magic Number If a multinational company developed a product that was a nutritionally balanced and delicious food, a wonder drug that both prevented and treated disease, cost almost nothing to produce and could be delivered in quantities controlled by the consumers’ needs, the very announcement of their find would send their shares rocketing to the top of the stock market. The scientists who developed the product would win prizes and the wealth and influence of everyone involved would increase dramatically. Women have been producing such a miraculous substance, breast milk, since the beginning of human existence… – Gabr...

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Secure With Duct Tape

Published April 3, 2012

Secure With Duct Tape I took pregnancy as a reading assignment. Back in “the old days” – my oldest daughter is 30 - it was hard to find a decent book on pregnancy and birth that didn’t assume you’d have a “Knock ‘Em Out, Drag “Em Out” childbirth. Barnes & Noble in Boston had two books in the birth section! (Of course, I bought them both.) So I was very excited when I found a book by Tracy Hotchner entitled The Complete Book of Pregnancy and Childbirth. It’s now out of print – and heaven only knows if I would still love it so much – but I still remember the best advice I ev...

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Happy Diabetes Alert Day!

Published March 27, 2012

Happy Diabetes Alert Day! Happy Diabetes Alert Day! (It’s today, Tuesday, March 27.) Well – maybe it’s silly to make such a wish. But it’s not silly to be alert to the increasing diabetes rates here in the United States. For many women, the first time we think seriously about our blood sugar levels is when we get tested for gestational diabetes at our OB/GYN office between 24-28 weeks of pregnancy. This is one test our moms (and certainly our grandmothers) may ask about – regular screening for all pregnant moms began about 25 years ago. No needle sticks here – the test involves drinkin...

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Vermont Breastfeeding Decision makes National News

Published March 20, 2012

Vermont Breastfeeding Decision makes National News Emily Gillette was nursing her little one to sleep before the plane took off. The flight attendant told her to cover up – and wasn’t nice about it. When Emily tried to explain that her toddler didn’t like to be covered up, Emily felt the exchange was getting threatening. She decided to walk off the plane rather than be escorted off – and soon the Vermont Human Rights Commission was helping Emily talk to the airlines. Last week, Emily’s civil case was decided in their favor, just as the Human Rights Commission case was settled in favor of n...

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To be a Mother is to be….Guilty?

Published March 13, 2012

To be a Mother is to be….Guilty? Belinda Whipple Worth, a therapist from the Anna Marsh Clinic at the Brattleboro Retreat, recently joined us at New Moms Network at BMH. We had an interesting time talking about the guilt that comes with being a new mother – and we were all relieved that we could laugh at ourselves and with each other about our changes and challenges. Do you recognize yourself here? We are not being judgmental, just telling you how we have grown and changed, and where we need to do more growing and changing. To work or not to work “I feel guilty that I need to go back to work and leave my baby. Then I feel guilty abou...

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