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Vermont Breastfeeding Decision makes National News

Published March 20, 2012

Vermont Breastfeeding Decision makes National News Emily Gillette was nursing her little one to sleep before the plane took off. The flight attendant told her to cover up – and wasn’t nice about it. When Emily tried to explain that her toddler didn’t like to be covered up, Emily felt the exchange was getting threatening. She decided to walk off the plane rather than be escorted off – and soon the Vermont Human Rights Commission was helping Emily talk to the airlines. Last week, Emily’s civil case was decided in their favor, just as the Human Rights Commission case was settled in favor of n...

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To be a Mother is to be….Guilty?

Published March 13, 2012

To be a Mother is to be….Guilty? Belinda Whipple Worth, a therapist from the Anna Marsh Clinic at the Brattleboro Retreat, recently joined us at New Moms Network at BMH. We had an interesting time talking about the guilt that comes with being a new mother – and we were all relieved that we could laugh at ourselves and with each other about our changes and challenges. Do you recognize yourself here? We are not being judgmental, just telling you how we have grown and changed, and where we need to do more growing and changing. To work or not to work “I feel guilty that I need to go back to work and leave my baby. Then I feel guilty abou...

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Changes in Parenting

Published March 6, 2012

Changes in Parenting Always Remember: We are living in a society that can easily share research-based information. Our families learned from their relatives, plus the experts of the day, many of whom had their own axes to grind. 1. Starting solids In 1900 – babies started solids at one year In 1950 – babies started solids at three weeks or younger In 2007 – AAP and the WHO recommend starting solids at six months to decrease the chance of food allergies and sensitivities. If solids are started much sooner, the food passes through the digestive tract unchanged. Studies show babies don’t sleep any better with early solids. 2...

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Getting Ready for a New Baby Checklist

Published February 28, 2012

Getting Ready for a New Baby Checklist   Plan care for “the big kids” Arrange for a friend or relative to come to your house Or, the kids may go somewhere for a “special” overnight Let your childcare provider or your child’s teacher know if a new person may appear to pick up your child Talk to your child about your plans. Tell a story: “One day, Melody was at school. And who came to meet her at the van? It was Aunt Laura! Not Mom! Mommy went to the hospital so our new baby could come out.” Play “What If” (good for 4-5 years and up): “What if you woke up one morning and Aunt Laura was t...

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A New Baby is Coming to Your House

Published February 20, 2012

A New Baby is Coming to Your House A new baby is coming to your house? Congratulations! As an oldest child myself, anticipating a new baby made me feel happy and sad all at the same time – how would this change my precious daughter’s life? Here are some suggestions that helped guide our transitions from only child to big sister. Worked again when our third child was born! As with any advice, remember to read, discuss, listen – and then choose things that will work best for your family. Every big brother and big sister is unique; each situation is a “special situation”. It’s not always easy to integrate a new child into a famil...

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How A Baby Learns To Love

Published February 14, 2012

How A Baby Learns To Love I was lucky enough to fall in love with my first baby, even before she was born. I knew that she loved to get up early in the morning, just like me. She was pretty mellow – I actually got scared one day that she wasn’t kicking me enough, and went to the hospital to make sure she was okay. (She was!) Even today, she definitely knows how to chill! Science says that even before our babies are born, they are learning about life. In the womb, babies sense and respond to the environment of the womb. The world is a golden place with reassuring sounds, from the gentle whoosh of the placenta to the voices of mom, dad,...

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Starting Solids: Know Your Responsibilities

Published February 7, 2012

STARTING SOLIDS: KNOW YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES The British Medical Journal today published an article entitled, Baby knows best? The impact of weaning style on food preferences and body mass index in early childhood in a case–controlled sample. Read whole article. Because this was written in Great Britain, what they call “weaning” is what we call “starting solids.” The authors, Ellen Townsend and Nicola J Pickford, looked at two groups of children. One group started solids with spoon feeding, eating the foods that their parents picked for them. The other group of babies pretty much started solids by swiping things that were on thei...

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How Do You Plan a Birth?

Published January 31, 2012

How Do You Plan a Birth? I enjoyed Bob Audette’s article (Reformer, 1/28/12) about the birth of his new son. You could tell he and his wife had “done their homework” and chose the right place for them to give birth. When we designed our new birth center at BMH, we worked hard to make the surroundings match our philosophy – that the birth of a baby is the birth of a new family. That moms and dads deserve respectful, excellent care. And that having lots of options – physician care, midwifery care, a volunteer doula, lactation support – in one place is a good thing. Many years ago Carl Jones, in his book Mind over Labor, suggeste...

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Published January 24, 2012

PREGNANCY MISERIES January 23rd is a special day for me. It’s the day my last baby was born, just after a very big snowstorm. I’d been feeding the town crew cookies for weeks and they knew I was ready to pop. I was so thankful our dead-end road was plowed! When I emailed my son to tell him “It was a good day for me when you were born”, he noted,  “It was also a good day for me when I was born, probably, though maybe a little disorienting.” What made it fun was – he was born on his due date. (The doctor raised an eyebrow – but I knew what day he was made.)  I was very tired of being pregnant by the time he was born. I had...

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Sleeping Baby – Part 2

Published January 17, 2012

Sleeping Baby - Part 2 In sleep as in life, you have to play the cards you get dealt. There are all kinds of sleepers out there. I am a good sleeper. My husband always wants to stay up, drink coffee and play chess. My first two children were lovely little girls who slept through the night (by the way the pediatric definition is – a five hour stretch!), took two solids naps a day well beyond the first year, and would go get their blankets and pillows and beg to go to bed when they were toddlers and preschoolers. “What is the big deal on putting a baby to sleep?” I smugly thought. Then I gave birth to my son. He never seemed to want t...

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