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Changes in Parenting

Published March 6, 2012

Changes in Parenting Always Remember: We are living in a society that can easily share research-based information. Our families learned from their relatives, plus the experts of the day, many of whom had their own axes to grind. 1. Starting solids In 1900 – babies started solids at one year In 1950 – babies started solids at three weeks or younger In 2007 – AAP and the WHO recommend starting solids at six months to decrease the chance of food allergies and sensitivities. If solids are started much sooner, the food passes through the digestive tract unchanged. Studies show babies don’t sleep any better with early solids. 2...

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Getting Ready for a New Baby Checklist

Published February 28, 2012

Getting Ready for a New Baby Checklist   Plan care for “the big kids” Arrange for a friend or relative to come to your house Or, the kids may go somewhere for a “special” overnight Let your childcare provider or your child’s teacher know if a new person may appear to pick up your child Talk to your child about your plans. Tell a story: “One day, Melody was at school. And who came to meet her at the van? It was Aunt Laura! Not Mom! Mommy went to the hospital so our new baby could come out.” Play “What If” (good for 4-5 years and up): “What if you woke up one morning and Aunt Laura was t...

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A New Baby is Coming to Your House

Published February 20, 2012

A New Baby is Coming to Your House A new baby is coming to your house? Congratulations! As an oldest child myself, anticipating a new baby made me feel happy and sad all at the same time – how would this change my precious daughter’s life? Here are some suggestions that helped guide our transitions from only child to big sister. Worked again when our third child was born! As with any advice, remember to read, discuss, listen – and then choose things that will work best for your family. Every big brother and big sister is unique; each situation is a “special situation”. It’s not always easy to integrate a new child into a famil...

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How A Baby Learns To Love

Published February 14, 2012

How A Baby Learns To Love I was lucky enough to fall in love with my first baby, even before she was born. I knew that she loved to get up early in the morning, just like me. She was pretty mellow – I actually got scared one day that she wasn’t kicking me enough, and went to the hospital to make sure she was okay. (She was!) Even today, she definitely knows how to chill! Science says that even before our babies are born, they are learning about life. In the womb, babies sense and respond to the environment of the womb. The world is a golden place with reassuring sounds, from the gentle whoosh of the placenta to the voices of mom, dad,...

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Starting Solids: Know Your Responsibilities

Published February 7, 2012

STARTING SOLIDS: KNOW YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES The British Medical Journal today published an article entitled, Baby knows best? The impact of weaning style on food preferences and body mass index in early childhood in a case–controlled sample. Read whole article. Because this was written in Great Britain, what they call “weaning” is what we call “starting solids.” The authors, Ellen Townsend and Nicola J Pickford, looked at two groups of children. One group started solids with spoon feeding, eating the foods that their parents picked for them. The other group of babies pretty much started solids by swiping things that were on thei...

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How Do You Plan a Birth?

Published January 31, 2012

How Do You Plan a Birth? I enjoyed Bob Audette’s article (Reformer, 1/28/12) about the birth of his new son. You could tell he and his wife had “done their homework” and chose the right place for them to give birth. When we designed our new birth center at BMH, we worked hard to make the surroundings match our philosophy – that the birth of a baby is the birth of a new family. That moms and dads deserve respectful, excellent care. And that having lots of options – physician care, midwifery care, a volunteer doula, lactation support – in one place is a good thing. Many years ago Carl Jones, in his book Mind over Labor, suggeste...

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PREGNANCY MISERIES

Published January 24, 2012

PREGNANCY MISERIES January 23rd is a special day for me. It’s the day my last baby was born, just after a very big snowstorm. I’d been feeding the town crew cookies for weeks and they knew I was ready to pop. I was so thankful our dead-end road was plowed! When I emailed my son to tell him “It was a good day for me when you were born”, he noted,  “It was also a good day for me when I was born, probably, though maybe a little disorienting.” What made it fun was – he was born on his due date. (The doctor raised an eyebrow – but I knew what day he was made.)  I was very tired of being pregnant by the time he was born. I had...

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Sleeping Baby – Part 2

Published January 17, 2012

Sleeping Baby - Part 2 In sleep as in life, you have to play the cards you get dealt. There are all kinds of sleepers out there. I am a good sleeper. My husband always wants to stay up, drink coffee and play chess. My first two children were lovely little girls who slept through the night (by the way the pediatric definition is – a five hour stretch!), took two solids naps a day well beyond the first year, and would go get their blankets and pillows and beg to go to bed when they were toddlers and preschoolers. “What is the big deal on putting a baby to sleep?” I smugly thought. Then I gave birth to my son. He never seemed to want t...

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Sleeping Baby – Part 1

Published January 10, 2012

Sleeping Baby - Part 1 Most families find that sleep is one of the biggest challenges in the first year of their new life as parents. There are so many opinions and perspectives on sleep, we could probably populate a weekly blog just with “facts” and “counter-facts” as we tell one another the best way to parent at night – and then wish we were sleeping so we’d be in a better mood as we argued. Dr. James McKenna, a sleep researcher and anthropologist atNotre DameUniversity, explains it in simple terms. He suggests that we have Stone Age babies who are being asked to accommodate to a Space Age world. What does that mean? Well...

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Winter Weather Is In The Forecast!

Published January 3, 2012

Winter Weather Is In The Forecast! How can you keep your baby safe when it’s cold outside? Here’s some ideas. Remember if you say to yourself, “I wonder if….”  you should do what your heart says is safer. Dressing for Winter Newborn babies need to be protected from the elements. Dress them in several layers of light clothing to keep them warm. Avoid overheating. The rule of thumb for babies and young children is to dress them in one more layer of clothing than an adult would wear in the same situation. Blankets, quilts, pillows, sheepskins and other loose bedding may contribute to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) an...

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